Standards

Society has put so many rules and guidelines on our lives that's it's ended up leaking into our private lives, making us second-guess what we do when no one's around. Last time I checked, it was called a "private" life for a reason. What I do in my bedroom.. or my bathroom or my living room or even my car, for that matter, is up to me. I don't have to abide by the "standards" of "normality" the conventionalists are trying to maintain. I mean, sure, there are certain things that go so far beyond the "norm" that they shouldn't be done anywhere, but we're not talking legalities here. We're talking about what people are afraid to be curious about because the "norm" says it's wrong or dirty or bad. Bad? Really? Am I going to get a time-out for asking questions and having thoughts outside my normal day-to-day sex life? No.

I've learned that men and women alike are sexually curious, mostly about the things considered taboo. Girls wonder about kissing or having sex with other girls, and guys wonder about anal play. That doesn't make you a homosexual. And no matter how much someone denies it, it's there, in the back, or maybe even the front, of their minds, picking away at them, waiting to be fulfilled.

You know all those guys you grow up with that are super macho and play sports and wrestle and lift weights? Yeah, those are the ones that deny it the hardest but think about it the most. I couldn't tell you how many times I've heard a guy freak out over even the thought of someone poking around back there, or even getting close, and start ranting about how that's gay and he's not gay so don't joke about it. It's not that serious. They swear they're comfortable with their own sexuality, but the freak out at the drop of a hat. But think about it: all men playing sports exhibit some sort of homo-erotic tendency. How many times have you seen them slap each other's asses on national television? How many guys on the wrestling team end up in the face-to-balls position before tapping out? Yet they don't want to talk about it in under normal circumstances. What a bunch of whiney closet cases.

Girls are a little more open to experimentation, and for some reason, society is completely okay with the idea of girl-on-girl experimentation, but not guy-on-guy. Why? There's no difference. Every girl wonders, at some point, if they're a lesbian. I've had those thoughts myself. But the common misconception is that girls who want to fuck around with other girls are lesbians. No. Homosexuality is the attraction between two same-sex partners that involves not being attracted to the opposite sex at all, whatsoever, and only wanting to have a physical and emotional relationship with someone of the same sex. Two girls making out while their boyfriends or husbands watch doesn't make them gay. A guy getting a little finger-anal play from his girlfriend or wife doesn't make him gay, either. Hell, it doesn't even make you bi or bi-curious.
Girls are naturally emotional and insightful beings, and making out or fucking around with each other is easier than teaching a guy new tricks, but that doesn't mean we're gonna permanently give up the cock. Well, most of us, anyway. And for guys, there are a ton of sensitive nerve endings in the anal region, and just because they like a little lubed-up finger-play doesn't mean they secretly desire some guy to shove his dick up their ass. But, of course, everyone's still really close-minded about a lot of things, and they're going to continue to be scared to experiment no matter what anyone says. It's okay to have a little fun sometimes.